Real Life Marriage

The fight is on at the Mitchell house.  Do we or do we not move to a smaller home?  Maybe even a town home.  Dedo and I have been debating this decision for several months.  Most of our kids have left the house and the last one is getting close to leaving.   As I get older, the less I want to do around the house.  I am tired of paying money for a pool we never use, for a huge lawn and landscaping costs, electric and gas bills that are out the roof....you get the picture.  Dedo, on the other hand, wants to have a house large enough to sleep 12 - that is if our kids and their familes want to stay with us.  It looks like all of them are going to live around here, so do we really need that big of a house?  She wants a home that is large enought to have 50 people over for dinner.  I don't even know 50 people. She wants square footage, I want less footage . I want to travel.  She wants to host events.   Seems like a train wreck about to happen.

This is the age old question - who decides the deal?  According to Scripture, I am the head of the household.  When a decision cannot be reached by mutual consent, I have the final say.  Sounds good until you are faced with that decision.  But after 28 years of marriage, I would not make a decision unless Dedo agrees with me.  I trust her judgement more than I trust my own.  She is right more times than I am. God gifts women with a discernment that men don't have.  Any man who thinks they know more than their wife is kidding himself.  

So I have decided to put a halt on moving.  The economy is so wacky and there are so many unanswered questions in my life that this is not a good time to make a major decision.  Dedo and I have mutually agreed that later this spring, we will revisit our decision and see where we think God is directing.  I've decided to look at refinancing and working on things around the house that need fixing. 

We feel great about that decision - and we made it as a team.  God knows best how to wire a marriage together.  And when we do it His way, it always works for the good.  

Comments

[woody]

No, dude, sell.
RV and H-D.
Kids go to the hotel.

[Brad Slawter]

I like your choice, but I know it is wise to go with Dedo's wisedom. Her reasons seem to outweigh our logic ...again. The Lord we would be well with Women.